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It’s Okay…I Actually Enjoy Spending Time with My Kids!

January 27th, 2012 | Posted by Angela Roberts in Homeschool | Natural Parenting

This is my first year homeschooling.  Many of Alex’s friends began attending kindergarten at the local elementary school.  As a new homeschooler I expected to get the ‘socialization’ question a lot but I am finding that the comment I am getting most often is “I couldn’t spend all of my time with my kids, I don’t know how you do it”.

I do spend all of my time with my kids.  Seriously, all of my time.  They go everywhere with me.  Heck, I don’t even know the last time that I slept without a kid in my bed or even took a shower by myself.  And you know what..I am totally okay with that.  Seriously.  Not every day is all roses, we have our minor and sometimes major hiccups but we get through them together as a family.  Yes, I think it would be easier to get housework done without 3 young kids following behind me making messes quicker than I can clean.  But I would not trade it for the world!

 

I was recently at the park with my kids when a nice lady, from a larger group, approached me.  She told me that I could ‘apply’ to be in her mom’s group so I didn’t have to be at the park alone.  I politely informed her that I was not alone at the park, I was with my kids.   I go to the park with my friends and their children often but in no way do I feel that I am alone when I am simply with my kids.

This is the time in my children’s life that they need me the most.  I am glad that they look to me for guidance.  I am glad that I can be here for them all day everyday.   This is one of the many things that I love about homeschooling.  I know who is influencing my kids…me.  I feel so lucky that I am their mom and their teacher.

Another thing…my kids are pretty cool.  They make me laugh.  They drive me crazy sometimes too but they are really fun to hang out with!

I also know that it will not be like this forever.  Soon enough they will be grown and off own their own.  I can only hope that I use the time that I have with them now wisely.  I hope I can influence them to grow into kind, compassionate, intelligent, caring individuals.

I  realize that I am very lucky to be at home with them.  I know that not everyone has or wants this opportunity.   And I am in no way passing judgement on people who do not wish to or are not able to spend all of their time with the children as I do.   It’s just that this is my choice and I wish that people would not look at me or gush to me as if I am crazy for making this decision.

I love homeschooling and I love spending time with my kids!

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13 Responses

  • Laurie says:

    My sentiments exactly!

    We are in year 14 of formal home education. Our oldest graduated high school a little over a year ago (yes, you can graduate early….even mid-year!) and is now in cosmetology school. I miss her everyday when she leaves. They don’t stay young forever.

    Our youngest recently turned 9.

    I actually miss having a little person in bed with us…or even in the shower with me! I never felt that my children were in the way or not worth my full attention.

    Enjoy these days. They, sadly, do not last forever. You soak up every minute you are blessed to be a Mama! :)

    • Angela says:

      Laurie, I just teared up reading your comment…I was just at the park watching them play thinking 6, 3, and 1 are the perfect ages…please stop growing :)
      Congratulaions on your homeschooling and Mama accomplishments, it sounds as if you have a wonderful family!

  • Salena Tucker says:

    Thanks for this! I get that “so glad my kids are gone to school’ response alot myself when people realize I homeschool. My kids are wild, they make messes, they dont listen to mom ALOT of the time… and I wouldnt trade them if I had to! Like I tell them, I had a life before I had them.. and that life SUCKED :)

  • Carolyn says:

    Your article has inspired me! We are in our fourth year of homeschooling and I have had a few moms say the same thing to me. I have even had a family member tell me that I was nuts to consider homeschooling because I paid taxes for public school!! LOL!! Someone always has an opinion I am just grateful that I can be home with my girls and watch them grow everyday. I have had to have my oldest in childcare when she was little and it was torture for me to leave her everyday. I was so excited to have her home with me finally!!
    I just keep telling myself to enjoy the journey, it doesn’t last forever!!

    • Angela says:

      Carolyn, you are so kind! I am so happy there are so many like-minded mamas out there. You are right, it makes such a difference when you remember to enjoy the journey, I know I don’t want mine to end!!

  • Jessica says:

    Your article touched my heart and I’m so glad my friend posted it… I too, am okay with Spending Time with My Kids! I been a S@HM for the past 8 yrs and I get so sick and tired of my family always asking me to go have ‘ME’ time (which I know they mean well) but when I tell them I’m happy being with my kids, they just dont get it…

    • Angela says:

      I am so glad you read it and liked it Jessica. I went to the grocery store for the first time in 6 years and felt lonely..I missed my kids being wih me! I totally get how you feel. It is so reinforcing to know that other mamas feel the same way :)

  • Janine says:

    ME TOO! Everyone assumes I can’t wait to get away from my son – Assumed it from the time he was just a few days old! Is that just our society? Honestly, just hanging out alone with my husband while the kid sleeps/naps is plenty of alone time. When he first started to eat solid food, taking him out to restaurants – Just me and a 6-12 month old – was one of my favorite things to do.

  • Whitney says:

    I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE!!!!! YAY I AM NOT ALONE :)!!!!!!!

  • dan says:

    I don’t even have kids yet but i can not wait to. I am so sick of hearing everyone around me saying “I cant wait for the kids to go back to school” and when they ask a question they say “you will learn it in school”. It makes me so frustrated! So many people have children just to hand them over to strangers at the first minute they can so they can get back to their ‘normal’ life.



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