It is amazing to me when I look back at only having one baby I realize that I behaved as an obsessive crazed first time parent. I was putting my baby to bed last night thinking about this.
With my first-born, Alex, I read every parenting book, magazine, website that I could get my hands on. He had to be in bed by 7. He had to get up, have breakfast, play, snack, play, lunch, nap, snack, play, dinner, bath, & bed. PERIOD. If things went different than the ‘schedule’ I was a mess. Looking back this makes me love my husband even more because he never said a word against my VERY scheduled parenting. I feel that I followed this schedule so much that I missed some very important bonding opportunities with my son. Now, don’t get me wrong I am very bonded with Alex but I could have been much more laid back and bonded in a much more mellow manner.
My second baby, Ava Rose, was VERY collicky and high maintenance. I am not even sure how to look back and think about on what level we bonded. We did what we needed to do to survive daily….for many months. She is now an amazing free spirited 3 year old. She remains high maintenance and I wouldn’t change her for the world!
My third child, Audrey Violet, is my baby. She turned one last Saturday. There are some things that Audrey KNOWS. Now Audrey cannot talk but she expresses these things daily.Some things that Audrey knows:
She knows that when she wakes up she likes to ‘chill’ in bed for about 15 minutes cuddling & playing peek-a-boo. If I try to get her up right when she wakes up she protests…loudly. I know embrace this waking up process…what better way to wake up?
She knows that she does NOT like eggs. I can dice the, scramble them, smother them in cheese. She does NOT like eggs.
She knows that the Xylophone is her favorite instrument…EVER. Don’t even think about taking it away from her.
Her nap is at 1:15. Not 1:00 & not 1:30.
She detests the crib…we tried getting her to take naps in it. She didn’t like the idea.
She must get into the Tupperware cabinet. She will not take no for an answer.
She insists on sharing her dinner with Laika, our dog. She will say his name before dropping food for him.
She despises a helmet on the bike. We are still working on this one.
Her bedtime is 9:00. The older kids hate this one because it is after their own bedtime. I can try to put her down at 8:00 or 8:30 but then I only end up lying in bed nursing her until she falls asleep….at 9:00
Of course, we cannot let our kids get their way on everything. But I sure wish that I had been more laid back with my first kid so I could realize what he ‘knew’ and not push on him what I ‘thought’ was right.